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The power coaching when it comes to reaching your goals

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Finally, it looks like winter 2018 is finally behind us. For those of us in the Midwest, we had one last ‘winter storm’ this past Sunday. Hello Spring! With that in mind, we’re at the end of the first quarter of the year. If you are like most people, perhaps at the beginning of the year, you set some New Year resolutions. Yet we know that by the beginning of Spring, more than 70% of resolutions have been broken.

Springtime is the perfect time to take stock of what you have achieved thus far this year.

First of all, it is never too late to press the reset button and revisit your resolutions. That’s because the word “resolution” goes way beyond just New Year.

I looked up the dictionary definition of resolution. It says ‘a firm decision to do or not to do something.’

Let’s take a look at the first part of that statement- a firm decision.

When you’ve made a resolution in the past, be it a New Year resolution or not, was it really a firm decision? Or just on a whim at the end of the year holiday office party? Perhaps you said it because you believed it at the time.

If making a New Year resolution is indeed a firm decision for most people, then why do 70% of resolutions fail by the beginning of spring?

Why do we have such poor results if we are really trying to to make lasting change in our lives?

Do we like to see ourselves fail? Or do we keep making resolutions because somehow we feel inside ourselves that we are destined to succeed?

Having trained as a professional life coach, I believe in the possibility for all people.

I think that we make resolutions because we are drawn to want more in our lives. We are intrinsically wired to be creative

I also feel that that perhaps we need a different set of tools to create those results we say we want in our lives.

Setting Goals as a Tool:

One of the more important coaching tools is the SMART system.

One of the empowering tools when it comes to achieving results is the way we set goals.

A SMART goal is an acronym that stands for

• Specific
• Measurable
• Achievable
• Results in
• Time

You’ve probably heard this before. So let’s say your goal is to do a 5K walk/run this year. You’ve not even gotten off your couch but you feel you want to set this goal.

And now you want to use the SMART goal system to gauge the likelihood that you will succeed.

Here’s an example of what a SMART weight loss goal would look like:

Is your goal to walk a 5K (3.1 miles) specific? –yes it’s precisely 3.1 miles or a 5K

Is your goal to walk a 5K (3.1 miles) measurable?- yes the course will be outlined with distance markers

Is your goal to walk a 5K (3.1 miles) achievable?– yes thousands of people have achieved this goal before, so can you.

When you walk 5K (3.1 miles) will you see the results?- yes, you will gain results from the moment you start training until you cross the finish line at the race.

Do you have a set time to achieve these results?– yes you can choose to run/walk this race in the fall which gives you plenty of time to train.

Write down your goals

Let’s get back to goal setting as part of making a firm decision to do something. You now know to make sure that you have a SMART goal.

The next step is to write down your goals.

More than 80% of people who write down their goals succeed at them.

Commit to having your goals in a visible place and reading them every day. In fact, Napoleon Hill in his famous book, ‘Think and Grow Rich’ wrote about reading your goals out aloud to yourself twice a day- once in the morning and once at night.

Remember that goal setting goes beyond the intellectual exercise. You are priming your subconscious mind to work with you when reading out a goal.

If you want to get a different result, then get an accountability partner.

Another reason people fail at their resolutions is that they do not hold themselves accountable. Change is not easy. A lot of times we need to have an accountability partner to help us keep going along the path of transformation.

That’s precisely why when we make those resolutions, and when the rubber hits the road, we falter and find a reason why we really can’t reach those goals.

Then you become discouraged or even doubt why you made that decision in the first place. Perhaps you’ve been trying to lose weight like I have and the scale just doesn’t seem to be tipping in the right direction or as fast as you want it to. 🙁

This is when you need an impartial accountability partner, such as a coach. A coach is someone who can call you on your stuff and who is not biased. They have no agenda. An accountability partner or a coach should be willing to be that stand for you in those times when you say to yourself perhaps this was not such a great idea after all. That’s the power of a coach.

It’s often said that if you are up to great things in your life, then you need a life coach.

I agree with that. Not merely because I am also trained as a life coach, but because I see the power that coaching has to create a change by empowering people to see much more than what they see for themselves.

So as we embrace the upcoming warmer months of Spring into summer, here are some questions that I have for you:

• Are you tired of doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result?
• When it comes to your health and overall wellbeing are you up to making 2019 a breakthrough year for you?
• Would you like to play a different game than just making a New Year resolution?
• If you knew you could not fail what dream goal would you like to see manifest in the next 12 months?

Now you may be wondering what all this has to do with managing type 2 diabetes or any other chronic illness. We are inundated with an internet that provides us with tons of information at the ‘click of a mouse.’

If it’s just having access to knowledge, then we should be able to achieve the results we say we want very quickly right? Wrong.

If we do not become aware of how our habits may sabotage us, or the thought patterns that hold us, hostage, we will never produce the results we say we want.

This is one of the reasons why I found coaching to be so transformational and why I am passionate about the power of coaching when it comes to helping clients and patients develop tools which will allow them to make permanent changes.

For a limited time only, I am offering a free 20-minute discovery session. I’d love to hear what you’re up to this year. Just send me an email at info@doctoreno.com to check in and let me know what you are up to. If you would like to schedule an appointment simply let me know and a member of my team will get back to you with my availability.

Until next time

To your Health & Wellbeing

How This Simple Strategy is Helping Me Tiptoe Past Overwhelm

personal developmentRecently I’ve had a lot on my plate. Between going to several work locations as a travel physician, building my online wellness platform; working on marketing and publicity; preparing for the release of my upcoming book, plus training for a fall marathon, it’s little wonder I’m beginning to experience some overwhelm.

In an earlier article I wrote about a strategy to get past overwhelm and get back into action.

But when we try to get back into action, we tend to set big goals and we get overwhelmed again.

Let’s say your goal at the beginning of  the year was to be a svelte size 6 by the start of the summer season. But somewhere around February, you stopped exercising, stopped watching your diet. Now you are 10 lbs heavier than you were at the beginning of the year!

You’re wondering if it’s worth even trying to lose all that weight. Perhaps you’re feeling so defeated that you’ve decided you’ll wait until 2018 to set another new year resolution.

In my upcoming book, I write about ‘the stages of change’. Too often we go straight into action without too much preparation. And when we do get into action we tend to go all out. You know the slogan ‘Go BIG or go home!’  Then we find we’re having a hard time keeping up the momentum. Next we become overwhelmed!

What if there was a way to tiptoe past overwhelm so that we stay in action and on the road to producing the results we desire?

Well, there is a way, I’ve learned about. It is called the Kaizen method. It teaches how to take simple small steps. When starting out with the kaizen method, the steps are so ridiculously small, that it may seem impossible they could create longlasting change. That’s the beauty of the kaizen method. The steps seem so small initially that we may not even feel we are making any change. The key is to success in the kaizen method is to consistently build on these small steps.

You see when we set BIG goals, we trigger an alarm in an area of our brain called the amygdala.
The amygdala is part of our primitive brain and was developed in pre-historic times to protect us from harm. So if the primitive man ventured into unfamiliar surroundings, it was the amygdala that fired off alarm signals warning him to retreat back to familiar surroundings.

The amygdala fires off the same way when we venture into the unfamiliar territory of making changes. Even when we know those changes could make us healthier and happier.

No wonder we never quite seem able to sustain a weight loss goal, exercise regimen, better diabetes numbers etc. because to our brains these all represent change. And our amygdala thinks change could be bad.

By learning to take simple small steps, consistently, we can make the needed change and not alarm our amygdala!

So what could this look like?

Let’s go back to the weight loss goal example and see how we can apply the kaizen method.

Rather than focus on the short-term goal of weight loss, focus on the long-term benefits losing weight will give you.

If you are living with type 2 diabetes or borderline diabetes, perhaps you may focus on the fact that in the long-term, losing weight has been proven to help with better blood sugar control and in the case of borderline diabetes can possibly reverse it.

Think of something really small that you can start with. This is the time to get really creative. Then commit to taking a simple small step.

For instance if you want to start a walking program, don’t rush to the fitness store and spend hundreds of dollars getting geared up in the ‘latest and the greatest gadgetry’. Rather, start with something as small as walking in place at home or at work for 1 minute a day. Or maybe you want to cut down on your food intake. Rather than look for ways to immediately cut out 500 calories per day, as most nutritionists may recommend, start with simply leaving a spoonful of food on your plate.

As these simple actions become easy, add on to with more small steps. For instance walk in place for 2 minutes a day. Leave two spoonfuls on your plate.

Be consistent. Make it a habit. Celebrate your wins.

Using the kaizen method can create a snowball effect. You will notice yourself wanting to take on more as your newfound habit becomes fun.

Can you think of other aspects of your life that could benefit from using the kaizen method?

Too often we tend to focus on what needs to be fixed. This is a very narrow way of looking at our lives. Every aspect of our lives are interconnected. You spiritual health affects your emotional health as well as your physical health. How you eat, sense and feel, relate to others as well as your perception of the world affects your whole person, and ultimately your health.

Whether you are living with a chronic illness or just looking to be healthier, it is always best to take a whole person approach to wellness.  The kaizen method is just one way that allows us to focus on the small things that ultimately affect the whole.

In my upcoming coaching programs, I’ll be sharing several strategies that help to focus on the whole person when it comes to improving our overall health and wellbeing.

I’m also excited that the second edition of my book “Dr. Eno’s Guide to Living Powerfully with Type 2 Diabetes’ will soon be released.  If you would like to download a free copy of the ebook that highlights the first three chapters of my upcoming book, click here.

To your health and wellbeing,