Is the story you tell yourself stopping you from reaching your full potential?

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s been a while since my last blog post. But I’m excited. I want to share that despite my silence , I’ve been working behind the scenes with an amazing team of people, including my virtual manager who has been instrumental in helping migrate my online business to a more robust platform.

You see for the last ten years I have kept ‘planning to plan’ to transition from clinical medicine into more of a wellness based business that focuses more community outreach programs as well as online group coaching.

I’m being transparent in sharing that this has been a process for me to get past ‘my story’. And don’t get me wrong, this is something I am still working through.

Do you have a story that you keep telling yourself? Do you know this story may be holding you back from reaching your full potential?
So now that I’ve piqued your curiosity, you might be wondering what do you mean by ‘ a story’?

A story is a tale that you repeat over and over again. In the beginning, the story may have been told to you by an authority figure in your life such as your parent(s), a teacher, a pastor.

The important thing about a story is that is that someone initially TOLD this story about you. And you believed it. It became your reality. Your story now becomes the lens through which you see your life.  Every aspect of your life. A story can limit you from reaching your full potential.
So let me share the story that has been limiting me for a good deal of my life:

I was born a premature baby in London, UK. In the 1960s the odds of a premature birth under or close to 7 months surviving were a lot less than they are in the 21st century. My mother was a nurse. She understood the odds of me surviving with no permanent deficits. She promised herself that if I did survive, I would become a doctor in order to ‘give back’. From my traditional roots-in Nigeria-the career path a child takes is largely determined by their parents.

Over the last 20 years I have enjoyed a successful medical career in the United States as a primary care physician. Over the course of my career, I have also seen the impact lifestyle choices have on overall health. I have treated the effects of those lifestyle choices when people get ill or develop chronic medical illnesses.

As time went on, I became passionate  about helping people become aware that they could change certain behaviors before they got seriously ill. It starts with not only their mindset, but the lifestyle choices they make. The body and the mind are related.

I also saw the impact my talks had when I went out to speak at community outreach programs. The general feedback was that people were able to grasp the information I offered and were eager to take action.

Do you know that patients do not understand more than half of what a healthcare provider especially a physician tells them?

About 10 years ago, I was introduced to the field of professional life coaching. It lit me up. For me, this was a model that went beyond the examining room could  impact people at the root cause.

But I have been allowing my story to limit me from transitioning into a career as a full time speaker, consultant and coach.

Do you know that we even have stories about everyday stuff? For instance when someone cuts you off in traffic, what do you think? Or when you are in the grocery line that just seems to go very slowly what’s your story? Or think about where you are now in your diabetes journey-what story are you telling yourself?

Own Your Story

It was not about the person cut you off in the traffic, for all we know they may have been rushing to see a dying relative in the hospital!  The grocery store line just goes slowly because that’s what grocery store lines do; not because you happen to be in the store. And how you get decide to relate to living with  diabetes or any other chronic illness is also a story you tell yourself.

So here are some of the things that I have been taking on to help me dismantle my story and keep me moving forward in my plan to transition out of clinical medicine. I invite you to take them on also:

  • Notice everywhere you are tell a story. Usually you’ll notice yourself going back and forth or making a judgment. Or it may be that you spend time  justifying why you can’t achieve a goal.
  • Next notice where you tell stories about other people or other things.
  • Now work on taking simple small steps to start dismantling your story. Start by telling yourself a story that leaves you feeling empowered. For instance, tell yourself  YES- it is possible to live a full and productive life despite being diagnosed with type 2 diabetes.

So here is the story that I am committed to telling myself moving forward-Yes, I am a great coach. It’s what has made me a good physician. I believe that patients should be actively engaged in their medical care. As a physician, I provide patients with resources and information which allows them make informed decisions in their healthcare.  Some of those conversations are not easy to have. But that truly is what coaching is all about.

There are lots of  things being planned for this platform over the next few months. In summer 2017, I  will be releasing the updated version of my book, “Dr. Eno’s A-Z Guide to Living Powerfully with Type 2 Diabetes”. If you have not already had a chance to preview the first three chapters in my free e-book, click here.

I would also love to hear your feedback on how you think a story has been running your life and preventing you from reaching your full potential.
Until next time,

To your Health & Wellbeing,